All of the relationship gurus say that couples with kids should have one or several date nights!
Our 7th wedding anniversary is coming up this weekend and my husband and I are following their advice and are going on a date!
During the day – huh?
Does this still count relationship people??
In my book it does – and even if it didn’t, we’re going anyway.
We came up with this idea earlier this year largely because we (or more accurately I) don’t trust leaving Alejandro with a babysitter. He’s only had one (1) since we moved to NYC 3 years ago and she worked at his preschool, so she knew him and he knew her.
I’m getting really excited about it because it will be uninterrupted couple time.
We can walk in the park, have lunch, maybe catch a movie, who knows….but what I do know is that we will be child-free for a few hours. Yay!
Wow, did I just say that?
I know I’ve grown a lot with this parenting thing because I can now say that without guilt! Being child-free for a while and focusing on your primary relationship is not bad at all – actually it’s just the opposite.
I know that feeling guilty is often a huge weight that us parents of children with special needs carry around but I’m advocating that we lighten our load a little bit.
Have a date day or night or even a date moment, if you can.
Any time spent on connecting or reconnecting as a couple will have huge benefits for your child.
My very unscientific positive domino-effect formula is this: happy individuals = happy couples = happy parents = happy kids!
So, if you haven’t had a date day (or night) with your significant other in a while, start planning it!
It’s a win-win situation and you’ll be so glad that you did.