P – Pause: To slow down or stop for a moment
R – Reflect: Consider/Think About who and where you are as a person. Do you like what you see or like the picture above shows, do you even know who that person is staring back at you?
E – Empty: Get rid of any heavy, unhelpful internal or external baggage
S – Savor: Oooo, savor how light you feel after all of that emptying
E – Embrace: Welcome the positive change(s) in yourself
N – No: Learn to say this word as it can set and protect your boundaries
C – Celebrate: You, your children, your spouse/partner, your life – just because!
E – Enjoy: Consciously enjoy (i.e. take pleasure in) every moment of each day
In a nutshell, presence means to ‘be/live in the moment,’ and not let let anything meaningful and dare I say, fun, pass you by. I know that it is hard for parents, in general, to take the time to focus on ourselves and is doubly hard for us parents of preemies, sick and/or special needs children. Despite this, I really encourage you to try to focus on being ‘present’ over the next few days and weeks. Jot down what it feels like, what you learn and share with me either via email or message me on Facebook. One added bonus of allowing yourself this gift is that once you start being ‘present’ with yourself, you start being ‘present’, (i.e. in the moment) with others.
This month, I’m starting a new thing called: ‘Parent Support Highlights’, in which each month, I will highlight person(s) and/or organizations that are doing something fantastic to support preemie and/or special needs parents and families. I want your feedback on the people I highlight as well as your thoughts or suggestions for any particular topic or area of concern that you want highlighted or discussed. You can post your comments in the comment section below or just simply drop me an email at: firstname.lastname@example.org.
During these holiday months of December/January, I am excited about introducing an amazing lady to you named Jodi, a Registered Nurse for the past 17 years as well as a NICU Nurse.
Jodi is the Founder of Peek-a-boo ICU, www.peekabooicu.net, a popular blog created to provide support to parents as they face the emotional journey of the NICU – all from the perspective of a NICU nurse. I’ve had the pleasure of meeting Jodi a couple of months ago and I can honestly say that she is one of the most caring, compassionate and humble people I’ve ever met. Check out Jodi’s picture and logo below:
Jodi offers two distinct ways of supporting preemie parents, via: 1) her Peek-a-Boo ICU Facebook page, www.facebook.com/peekabooicuRN?fref=ts, and 2) her Journey Beads and Bracelets Collection.
The Facebook page is a “community that offers support and allows other similar individuals to “be there” for each other along the way–through the rough and tough times and also to rejoice and cheer each other on in the happy moments”.
The Journey Beads and Bracelets Collection was created as a way to acknowledge the journey and the emotional aspect of parenting a preemie. Each bead is designed to commemorate the baby’s time spent in the NICU, to recognize the emotions, remember the milestones, reflect on the trials and triumphs that make their story their very own, and give the parents something tangible to tell and record their baby’s story. See picture of a journey bracelet below:
Jodi says: “The NICU is never in anyone’s birth plan. Parents are thrown into a world they don’t know and never expected, drenched in fear of the unknown. All too often they are given information they don’t understand and are faced with a future that is so uncertain. They don’t know what to ask, how to act, and often feel overwhelmed to say that they’ve lost their way”.
So if you are still wondering what to get for that special preemie parent you know (even if it is yourself), consider buying the journey beads to tell your story or the story of your loved one. It’s beautiful jewelry anyway, so no one will even need to know that you are telling your very unique story every time you wear it. To see more of Jodi’s Preemie jewelry, click: www.peekabooicu.net
One last thing, I am actively working on increasing the number of followers to my Families Blossoming Facebook Page and I would appreciate it if you could take a moment to like my page, if you haven’t already, by clicking on the following link: www.facebook.com/familiesblossoming.
I will be increasingly using this page, along with other social media forums, to share tidbits, thoughts and topics and goodies with you (hopefully) in a more conversational manner. So if you are on Facebook, this will be a great way for us to connect and interact more frequently with one another. I’m looking forward to it and hope you are too. That link again to like and follow my page is:
In closing, I’m wishing every single one of you and your families a healthy, happy and joyful holiday season – which is full of your ‘presence’ – and I look forward to exploring together what lies ahead in 2013!!
Please feel free to leave your comments on this month’s topic and/or anything else you want to share. As always, feel free to drop me a line at: email@example.com at any time.
Happy Holidays and All My Best,